Command

A consent to slavery is an extraordinary commitment of devotion and trust as well as a vote of confidence that the Master will rule with authority in a predetermined dynamic.

It's the responsibility of the Master to rule confidently and with the authority bestowed, without concern of retribution. To do anything less dishonors the slaves gift of submission.

To Love, Honor and Obey

These days, the last of these three important edicts are omitted at most wedding ceremonies.

I believe that it's exclusion not just in the vows, but the marriage itself has become the one single very lone reason most relationships fail.  There is no clear and defined leader for the relationship.

Lack of leadership instills doubt.  Doubt breeds fear.  Contempt follows.

Women say they want a leader but refuse to follow.  They seem to declare that a relationship should be a team effort, but no football team will get anywhere if everyone has to have their input about the very next play.  No one would watch because games would be too long and boring.

Still, they do have some very real concerns.  Many men have been emasculated.

In a real team effort there is always sacrifice.  One person will sacrifice in order to benefit the team.  And yet as kids grow up now having never had to sacrifice, when it comes down to brass tax and the hard decisions have to be made, men are often either confused or simply met with mutiny from their partners.

Why is it that children no longer know how to share, communicate or struggle to achieve?  Because they refuse to obey?

Have we come down to a temper tantrum society that freaks when it can't get it's way?  C. M. Punk visibly gets upset and overreacts in frustration (taking his head completely out of the game) when he can't accomplish his goal to pin another wrestler, and he's supposed to be a tough guy.  Another wrestler, Jericho (also a rock star) whines and whimpers all the time.  When younger, Jericho was constantly throwing temper tantrums like a little baby every time he lost.

The "ME" society just plain sucks.

Why have things gotten this bad?  We still love, we still honor and hopefully respect our fellow man, but there are too many so-called "Chiefs" and no Braves to follow or obey.

You may not have kids now, but most of us wind-up with at least one or two along the way (if we don't kill them through abortion, etc...).  And we are only thinking of ourselves when we saddle them with such a devastating debt. 

• We are only thinking of ourselves.
• We refuse to sacrifice.
• We refuse to obey our common sense.

You can't tell Me we don't have any common sense, but we are so poorly educated that few realize the potential they really ought to know.  This is SIN, people.  Wake up.  Educate yourself.  Open your mind.

Boundries

Before entering into an M/s (Master & slave) relationship, certain agreements are made and there are boundries defined. An example is that a slave will not participate in scat, beastiality, kids, blood, maiming, or death.

Often these are mutual limits, as the Master would not have anything to do with that crap in the first place. Usually a Master and slave are finding common interests, common ground on which to base a relationship, and clicking together.  But limits are defined and agreed to on a consensual basis. Some limits in the BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism & Masochism) world are by their very nature law bending or law breaking, but that is a separate issue beyond the scope of this topic, and by the time an M/s relationship is formed those details are worked out in advance.

The act of consent to slavery through obedient submission is the ultimate statement of confidence in the Master. But it is more, and to define the ultimate gift and the power it holds is also a huge undertaking. Upon placing her (or his) life's journey into the hands of another, the slave loses the ability to define her role. The constant act of obedient submission to that authority actually defines the Master as the slave's Master, and not merely a Dom.

But the Master defines everyone's place, role, freedom, authorities and perhaps even habits of all parties involved within the context of those original boundries. Yet those original boundries are a constant provided by the original agreement.

That said, limits are sometimes pushed. If they are boundries that defined the relationship, they could jeopardize the relationship. More often, they are of a sexual nature and have nothing to do with the defining limits of the relationship. But the act of surrender to the Master's will is in fact a vote of confidence in the Master's enforcement of those boundries and the protection offered.

The person with the ultimate power is usually the one who has control over the ultimate gift (submission), and therein lies the equality of an M/s dynamic.

There are so many different ways to take that dynamic, and that is only one of the many reasons why One is in charge. The "Why" is usually designed by the relationship itself, even before it became M/s.

And always, there is variety which means that this simple post will never cover it on its larger whole. But it is fun to discuss and quite educational.

Consensuality

A true Master/slave relationship is one of consensual ownership. It is a radical statement of the slave's commitment, devotion, respect and trust in a Master. By definition, freewill is removed in slavery. The slave acts according to the Master's plan.

By no means does this relationship give the Master the authority to perform illegal acts, and the bounds of such authority should always be safely determined pre-hand. There are other devices of safety such as safe words that should always be employed in such true Master/slave relationships.

The Master is expected to lead and rule with authority in the interest of the larger unit. The authority comes from the gift of submission and devotion, not the command. Should absolute power absolutely corrupt the Master, the slave would not be expected to endure, it is a consensual relationship, after all (between consenting partners, of course).

At no time should either the Master or a slave consider themselves better than the other, they are equals in a hiearchal relationship. Just because they have different roles does not make either superior or different.  Each completes the other.  Just as a horse and rider are a team, who is in control?  The rider gives direction, the steed powers them to the destination.  Sacrifices are made on behalf of one to further the team.
 
The simple act of a Master/slave relationship is about the slave defining her (or his) Dom(me) as a Master through her/his submission through her obedience to Him (or Her). A Master cannot exist without that gift of dedicated submission. Mutual interests and respect have been defined well enough so that there is a mutual trust.

That gift of submission has to be given every single day and night. To break the trust that is given should by definition corrupt the consensuality of the relationship, and the relationship will undoubtedly crumble. But a true Master will understand this, and that there is no such thing as absolute power. The very act of being a Master is an act of trust.  It can not happen without a slave trusting her Master to lead.  Without a slave, a Master merely becomes a Dom, for He has no one to Master.

Not everyone will be a slave, think not that this is a problem. Not every Dominant will become a Master, either.

subs are merely submissive by nature and have defined boundries. They have not pledged obedience as property.  They refuse to give all, or at least to sacrifice certain things.  They may sacrifice a great deal, but they are not "obedient" and define themselves within the context of their relationship.  They reserve the right to question authority.

slaves are not powerless, by any stretch of the imagination. To think so is foolishness, the slave can be a seductress and get her ways, and this dance is often what a M/s relationship is about.

Boundries have to exist for a slave because W/we have laws to follow. Laws are important, though some D/s relationships may even push the boundries of law. But you don't have to enjoy M/s for that.

The Master needs to receive His (or Her) gift of submission everyday.  Because a slave defines a Master through her submission, He is only a Dom without a slave. But the Master defines the role of all partners once given the authority, molding the slave.

Still, it is the slave that bends her will to that of her Master.  

The important thing to remember is that in an M/s relationship, the very context of being a Master is defined by the act of slavery, and although that is usually given at one point in ceremony, it still has to be given daily.

Through that act of submission, the Master then defines both roles, his/hers as the Master and how much is controlled, as well as who the slave will be, how much freedom she might enjoy, if any.

Still, the parameters of the Master/slave relationship has to be approached before hand with a mutual agreement and trust.  And although Goreans think that a slave (referred to as a "kajira") is a slave and that's all there is to it, we live in the real world and denying that fact worries Me that they might be living in too much fantasy.

Consensual slavery is consensual.  That means agreements are made, a relationship defined, a path explored.

And in the end I only hope that love and devotion are also involved.

D/s & M/s

D/s is how we usually refer to a Dominant and submissive relationship (Dominant/submissive or Dom/sub also work).  And of course it is them easy to understand the M/s refers to a Master and slave dynamic (Master/slave).

So, what's the difference?  This is debated all over the net where such lifestyles thrive.  These relationships are mutually exclusive, they can (but don't have to) include other fetishes such as bondage or acts of S&M (Sadism & Masochism).  Each Master or Dom defines the relationship after consideration and negotiation between all parties.  At least, usually.  ;)  Sometimes it doesn't happen that way, but it should.

The slave or sub is actually the one who usually initiates this sort of relationship through its definition by the Master, or the Dominant party.  she does this by offering her submission to the One she trusts to guide her, enrich her and protect her.

The slave is molded by Master to become the embodiment of His will.  It is not the Master's command that makes the slave into His Masterpiece, it is the slaves personal strength, devotion and commitment to a trusted Leader that defines Him as a Master.  It is His ability to make quick decisions and sharp command in the interest of the team without having to worry about her feelings that defines her as His property.

A submissive retains free will.  A submissive does not give up all.

Any respected Dom or Master knows His property intimately and understands her limits.  Some limits are respected (as agreed) while some are pushed.

In either case the gift of submission is given and constant, until such time as it is withdrawn.  That is, the gift of submission is not given once, it is given all the time (until it is no longer).

The gift of submission is not held over Master as a threat to leave, it is the subservient one's conviction to herself (her true personality) in honor of her Master through their trust of each other.

Should the trust ever perish, so should the relationship, and submission needs to be withdrawn.