Before entering into an M/s (Master & slave) relationship, certain agreements are made and there are boundries defined. An example is that a slave will not participate in scat, beastiality, kids, blood, maiming, or death.
Often these are mutual limits, as the Master would not have anything to do with that crap in the first place. Usually a Master and slave are finding common interests, common ground on which to base a relationship, and clicking together. But limits are defined and agreed to on a consensual basis. Some limits in the BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism & Masochism) world are by their very nature law bending or law breaking, but that is a separate issue beyond the scope of this topic, and by the time an M/s relationship is formed those details are worked out in advance.
The act of consent to slavery through obedient submission is the ultimate statement of confidence in the Master. But it is more, and to define the ultimate gift and the power it holds is also a huge undertaking. Upon placing her (or his) life's journey into the hands of another, the slave loses the ability to define her role. The constant act of obedient submission to that authority actually defines the Master as the slave's Master, and not merely a Dom.
But the Master defines everyone's place, role, freedom, authorities and perhaps even habits of all parties involved within the context of those original boundries. Yet those original boundries are a constant provided by the original agreement.
That said, limits are sometimes pushed. If they are boundries that defined the relationship, they could jeopardize the relationship. More often, they are of a sexual nature and have nothing to do with the defining limits of the relationship. But the act of surrender to the Master's will is in fact a vote of confidence in the Master's enforcement of those boundries and the protection offered.
The person with the ultimate power is usually the one who has control over the ultimate gift (submission), and therein lies the equality of an M/s dynamic.
There are so many different ways to take that dynamic, and that is only one of the many reasons why One is in charge. The "Why" is usually designed by the relationship itself, even before it became M/s.
And always, there is variety which means that this simple post will never cover it on its larger whole. But it is fun to discuss and quite educational.
Often these are mutual limits, as the Master would not have anything to do with that crap in the first place. Usually a Master and slave are finding common interests, common ground on which to base a relationship, and clicking together. But limits are defined and agreed to on a consensual basis. Some limits in the BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism & Masochism) world are by their very nature law bending or law breaking, but that is a separate issue beyond the scope of this topic, and by the time an M/s relationship is formed those details are worked out in advance.
The act of consent to slavery through obedient submission is the ultimate statement of confidence in the Master. But it is more, and to define the ultimate gift and the power it holds is also a huge undertaking. Upon placing her (or his) life's journey into the hands of another, the slave loses the ability to define her role. The constant act of obedient submission to that authority actually defines the Master as the slave's Master, and not merely a Dom.
But the Master defines everyone's place, role, freedom, authorities and perhaps even habits of all parties involved within the context of those original boundries. Yet those original boundries are a constant provided by the original agreement.
That said, limits are sometimes pushed. If they are boundries that defined the relationship, they could jeopardize the relationship. More often, they are of a sexual nature and have nothing to do with the defining limits of the relationship. But the act of surrender to the Master's will is in fact a vote of confidence in the Master's enforcement of those boundries and the protection offered.
The person with the ultimate power is usually the one who has control over the ultimate gift (submission), and therein lies the equality of an M/s dynamic.
There are so many different ways to take that dynamic, and that is only one of the many reasons why One is in charge. The "Why" is usually designed by the relationship itself, even before it became M/s.
And always, there is variety which means that this simple post will never cover it on its larger whole. But it is fun to discuss and quite educational.
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