I believe that it's exclusion not just in the vows, but the marriage itself has become the one single very lone reason most relationships fail. There is no clear and defined leader for the relationship.
Lack of leadership instills doubt. Doubt breeds fear. Contempt follows.
Women say they want a leader but refuse to follow. They seem to declare that a relationship should be a team effort, but no football team will get anywhere if everyone has to have their input about the very next play. No one would watch because games would be too long and boring.
Still, they do have some very real concerns. Many men have been emasculated.
In a real team effort there is always sacrifice. One person will sacrifice in order to benefit the team. And yet as kids grow up now having never had to sacrifice, when it comes down to brass tax and the hard decisions have to be made, men are often either confused or simply met with mutiny from their partners.
Why is it that children no longer know how to share, communicate or struggle to achieve? Because they refuse to obey?
Have we come down to a temper tantrum society that freaks when it can't get it's way? C. M. Punk visibly gets upset and overreacts in frustration (taking his head completely out of the game) when he can't accomplish his goal to pin another wrestler, and he's supposed to be a tough guy. Another wrestler, Jericho (also a rock star) whines and whimpers all the time. When younger, Jericho was constantly throwing temper tantrums like a little baby every time he lost.
The "ME" society just plain sucks.
Why have things gotten this bad? We still love, we still honor and hopefully respect our fellow man, but there are too many so-called "Chiefs" and no Braves to follow or obey.
You may not have kids now, but most of us wind-up with at least one or two along the way (if we don't kill them through abortion, etc...). And we are only thinking of ourselves when we saddle them with such a devastating debt.
- We are only thinking of ourselves.
- We refuse to sacrifice.
- We refuse to obey our common sense.
I don't think love, honor and obey has anything to do with the ME society. To me that has more to do with ideas that have surpassed time. I have seen in my youth and in church many women struggle with coping, taking care of the children while the 'master' of the house was in his ME fase acting like a dictator and calling that love. I saw wives struggling with the money their spouses gave them and I remember how my mother would talk to their man showing them actually how they couldn't live on that money. My mother and father were a team through thick and thin. I have 2 children now and I am a team with my husband. My parents showed me what love is, what respect is and mostly what self love is. Because only when you love yourself (and I am not talking narcism) it gives you the freedom to love others. Caring of your self, having self respect and self-esteem is the clue in my opinion.
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